One aspect of having challenges in our lives is that we chose those challenges to learn to love ourselves unconditionally. If we can keep that in mind as we go through our experiences, we can perhaps go through them more smoothly, and directly, rather than getting stuck in a side trip to the circle of emotional turmoil. When we love ourselves enough to accept the situation without judgment, we can apply forgiveness right away to others as well as ourselves. This invites the magic of synchronicity in to transform for the highest good of all involved. Loving ourselves unconditionally, with all our foibles, and accepting ourselves as already perfect, we can begin to see others as perfect in themselves too, and be able to love them unconditionally as well.
Dr. Wayne’s daughter, Serena, wrote a blogpost entitled Learning to love myself. In it, she explains, “It was only when I stopped judging myself and tried loving myself that I began to discover that the universe, God, whatever you want to call it, fully supported me in my efforts and I started getting all “green lights” on my path toward discovering just what my dharma was. When I started attempting deep and profound self-love, the kind great parents offer to their children, I started to feel good- I started to find that the right people were showing up at the right places and my life began to feel more on purpose. Since I began the process of self-love and self-acceptance, the right man came into my life. When I started to offer love to myself on the inside, I started to lose the extra weight I was carrying around because I began to realize that I didn’t need food to give me the feeling of being full, I felt full and complete without food or drugs or alcohol.”
All the things we do in a day change when we love ourselves unconditionally. Doing something for ourselves feels different because we are doing it with a renewed love for our own sacred existence. Taking two minutes to thank our body, to remind ourselves how magnificent we are and to just be. Doing for others, and getting no thanks, changes because we are the ones who thank ourselves, and somehow the need for thanks doesn’t seem that important anymore. We do things out of love for ourselves, because we are each a piece of God, and connected by God.
We’ve all known people that seem empty inside, or maybe we have felt that way ourselves. That emptiness is a void of self-love. When we drop the distractions and put down all the games and illusions, we can get down to it and face ourselves in the mirror. We can step back and look at our life as a whole, so far, and then zero in on the individual spark within, that is really and truly… us. We can make that spark of our true essence, which is love, grow. Then we can:
- Accept our past
- Forgive ourselves
- Appreciate our unique appearance
- Value our bodies
- Be at peace instead of needing to fix
- Affirm our amazing journey
- Rest is a gift to ourselves
- Absolve our insecurities
- Free ourselves of judgement
- See the beauty of life… and feel gratitude
When we love ourselves we naturally treat others with respect and kindness because we recognize that the same spark of God that is within us, is within them too. And then, somehow, what we are feeling and doing on the inside, becomes reflected back to us on the outside. When we have aligned the inside of ourselves with love, the Universe sends love to us and we can manifest and create more easily than ever before… or just be… peacefully.
In his blogpost The Love Equation, Dr. Wayne wrote, “To begin to change what’s inside you, become more loving toward yourself. In your thoughts, cultivate an inner voice and attitude that’s 100 percent on your team. Imagine an inner self that only supports and loves you. You might schedule a certain time of day when that’s the only thought that you allow yourself to pay attention to. Gradually this loving attitude will extend to other people. You’ll begin to receive this energy back and ultimately be able to send thoughts of love and joy to everyone and everything in your world.”
When we love ourselves unconditionally, we’re not being selfish or vain. When we have our own full love, we have no need to go out of balance like that. We see things differently and so clearly, and life just becomes more simple. Seeing things differently is a miraculous gift. Because amazing truths exist in the vastness beyond ourselves, and truly loving ourselves is the key that opens the door.